Among the emails I've received this week (I will answer them all before the week's out) was one from a family member of someone still in active addiction. They state that their son wants to get clean and sober and is willing to come to treatment but how will they ever be able to trust him again and is there any chance he'll ever amount to anything.
Well, firstly many addicts and alcoholics enter detox and drug and alcohol treatment centres thinking that once they get clean and sober, all will be well with their lives and their relationships with others.
This is an achievable goal for most people but is sometimes takes time. Many addicts and alcoholics have spent years showing that, due to their dependency, they are untrustworthy. While at our treatment centre, after we have detoxed the person, they look at how their addiction and alcoholism has not only affected their lives but the lives of those around them.
They also look at ways to make amends for their previously chaotic behaviour. They learn that trust HAS TO BE EARNED. This is done by actions and not words. But, in our experience and by the sackfuls of letters (now emails) we have received over the years, those who adhere to what we show them change their whole lives. They become positive people, where in the past negativity was king. They becomes trustworthy and upstanding honest citizens. That probably answers the second part of the question as well.
Recovering at The Providence Project is not just about having a drug detox or alcohol detox and sitting in rehab for a few weeks, it's about having a complete new way of living and looking forward to life instead of running away from it.
Hope that answers your question.
Hey Steve It's Anon, I'm just laying in bed 127 days clean some 90 days after coming home from the provy. Thinking about a guy who I'm trying to help who is going into treatment soon. He works for tfl and I remember you speaking about what great support they offered. I mentioned this to him and he got honest and told his work. He is now getting some help.
Anyway as a result of this I was having a look at the Provy website and saw your blog. It feels lovely to be connected with your message of recovery.
Thank you for all you did for me and continue to do for others. As you guys taught me gratitude is an action so I felt I had to get in touch. Tired now tho so good night mate.
Hopefully I'll be down south soon.
Hope all is good with you n yours,
Don't go getting well on us.
Love Anon x
* We have used 'Anon' to replace the name of the person that wrote to use to ensure they remain anonymous.