How to help a drug addict

Helping you Understand

So many families are faced with the nightmare that their loved one is developing a drug addiction. Families are often faced with lies, deceit and denial and simply do not know how to react. Should we get angry? Should we feel sad? Should we be sympathetic?

  • The first step is to talk to your loved one about your concern. Try to offer help and support without being judgemental. Unfortunately, denial is the most common symptom of addiction and therefore we would suggest that you are prepared with a list of specific examples of their drug use or behaviour which have concerned you.
  • Make sure that you look after yourself. Dealing with someone’s addiction can be very tiring and stressful and it can be very easy to forget about your own needs. Too often we hear from family members who have completely lost their own lives as a result of their loved one’s addiction
  • Do not blame yourself. You can help, support and encourage your loved one but remember that you cannot force them to make decisions. If you really want your loved one to change, you will need to start by putting clear, health boundaries in place, known as tough love.

Not to do list:

  • Do not bribe, threaten or lecture
  • Do not make excuses for them or cover up their behaviour. This is called enabling and will lead to further drug use.
  • Do not take over all their responsibilities. Remember – they are an adult.
  • Do not argue with them when they are stoned or high
  • Do not feel responsible for their behaviour
  • Don’t yearn for perfection – it’s impossible

We understand that this advice is not always easy to take on board when faced with such a stressful situation but our counsellors are just a phone call away and are happy to help. We are experts in the field of drug rehab and addiction treatment and are happy to support you through this process.

If your loved one accepts that they have a problem and are willing to accept help, please call to arrange their free assessment.

If your loved one is still in denial about their addiction, please call us for support and ask about our intervention service.

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