In many cases, problem gamblers will want the help and support of their friends and family to stop gambling. Unfortunately, due to the damage done to the family system by the gambling and the accompanying lies, it is very common for the family to have conflicting emotions. On the one hand, you may have tried to cover up their problem or invested a lot of time in making sure they do not gamble as much but on the other hand you may be very angry at your loved one for gambling again and again after so many broken promises.
Depending on your situation, it is not uncommon that they have borrowed or taken money from you, run up huge debts or sold family possessions. It is important that you realise that it is impossible for you to make someone stop gambling.
Much like those who are suffering from alcoholism or drug addiction, it is important that you look after yourself.
- Do not blame yourself for the problem or let the their addiction dominate your life
- Get Support.You do not have to deal with this problem alone or feel ashamed and protect your loved one.Reaching out for support is the kindest thing you can do for yourself and your loved one
- Set clear boundaries as to what is and isn’t acceptable.Stick to these boundaries.
- Do not enable the addiction to continue; do not give them money.
- Understand that the problem your loved one has may require treatment.They may have genuinely tried to stop but are simply unable to without the right help and support
If you are affected by the gambling or gaming of a loved one and want to find out more about the treatment options available or if you r loved one is in denial and you do not know what to do next and would like to find out more about the possibility of a family intervention, then we are here to help. Our specialist counsellors are available 24/7.